You’re good at your life. Really good. You’ve built the systems, tried the routines, read the books, taken the advice. And somewhere in all of it, you started to feel like you were the one falling short.
You’re not.
Modern motherhood was never going to work for any of us. And when it didn’t, we were told the problem was us.
That’s the part I’m done believing.
For years I taught in public schools—and for the better part of a decade, I specialized in intervention, where instead of expecting each kid to fit a one-size-fits-all system, I got to meet them where they were. I watched what happened when a kid stopped being asked to fit a system and was finally met where she was.
I can’t unsee how the same applies to mom life.
So this is where I write about unlearning all of it. What I’ve stopped doing. What I’ve gained. What I’ve been wrong about. What I’m still figuring out.
I’m not going to tell you how to do it better. I’m going to tell you what I stopped doing, and what happened when I did.
If you’re not sure this is for you
This isn’t a space for someone looking for the next system or the next routine. It’s not for someone who wants to be told exactly what to do, or who’s hoping a better expert will finally have the answer.
It’s for the woman who’s already tried all of that. Who’s good at her life and tired of feeling like she’s failing it. Who suspects the problem isn’t her — and is ready to stop looking for the fix that will prove she’s enough.
If that’s you, you’re in the right place.
A few essays to start with
On becoming the default parent without anyone asking, and what I’ve been doing about it ever since.
What mornings actually look like when you stop trying to optimize them.
What happens when you stop letting the kitchen have a claim on whatever’s left of you at 9 PM.
A little about me
I’m Erin. I live in Boulder, Colorado with my husband Jason, our two kids & our labradoodle George. I write a new essay for A Little Less every Sunday.
I’m glad you’re here.
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