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An entire generation of moms was told that expertise, optimization, and better systems would make motherhood less hard. It didn’t. It made it harder, lonelier, and more expensive — and it convinced us the failure was personal.
We were duped.
And it’s time to stop believing that we aren’t doing enough. To stop looking for the system that will finally prove we are. And to start believing that we know — better than any expert — what we need, what matters, and what’s worth our effort.
But it’s easier said than done.
So this is where I share what doing it has actually looked like. What I’ve stopped doing. What I’ve gained. What I’ve been wrong about. What I’m learning along the way.
I’m not going to tell you how to do it better. I’m going to tell you what I stopped doing, and what happened when I did.
I didn’t become a mom so I could be the most efficient person in my life. I became a mom because I wanted to enrich the life I have with the people I’m building it with.
But things got off track & this is where I write about finding my way back to it.
I know you’re here because you’re on some sort of parallel path as mine. So there are a few ways to be a part of the conversation — pick what fits your life right now, knowing you can always adjust as that shifts.
The first costs nothing. Every essay arrives in your inbox, every week, free. No paywalls. No locked archives. No tier of better content waiting behind a wall. You’re here right now. And if reading along is the right version of what’s right for you today, then you’re exactly where you need to be.
The second is a paid subscription. It’s for the reader who wants more of my voice in her week — the essay read aloud, a short audio note from me, the kind of thing I’d send to a friend. Her support is what keeps every essay free for everyone else.
The third is founding membership. It’s the same as paid, plus a letter from me in the mail & a few small surprises throughout the year. It’s for the reader who wants to help keep this space ad-free & help more women find it.
Whichever version you choose is the right one.
If you want to start reading before the next essay arrives, here are a few places to begin:
This is the essay where I walked away from a publication that promised to give moms answers & started writing one that trusts them to find their own.
This one’s on becoming the default parent without anyone asking & what I’ve been doing about it ever since.
This will give you a look at what mornings actually look like when you stop trying to make them productive.
If you want to know more about me
I wrote a longer piece here. The short version: for years I taught in public schools — and for the better part of a decade, I specialized in intervention, where instead of expecting each kid to fit a one-size-fits-all system, I got to meet them where they were. Now I can’t unsee how the same applies to mom life. So this is the space where I write my way through unlearning the hustle — and figuring out how to meet my own life the way I learned to meet the kids.
Don’t be a stranger
If an essay ever brings up anything for you, please know that you can hit reply to share your thoughts. It comes straight to me & I read everything. 🥰
I’m so glad you’re here.
Talk soon,
Erin